When you have elderly parents then it becomes your responsibility to take care of those who have taken care of you few years back. Your role in the family changes to a great extent. But how can you ensure that the efforts made by you to take care of your parents are really helping them to be comfortable and satisfied? Some people like to keep their elderly parents with them whereas some make arrangements with some assisted facility for their comfortable and independent living. Some tips are provided here under to help you to ensure that your parents are getting the best care from you.
Ensure to keep their familiar things around them
Your parents will be happier to find the things they are familiar with nearby them, regardless of where they are staying, with you or at some assisted facility. These things may include their favorite furniture, books, decorations and items that make them live comfortable with a home like feeling. You can ask them about the items important for them, if you are ignorant in this regard. They may feel pleased and satisfied if they get what is required by them well in time or the things go as per their requirement.
Encourage them to be social and active
The social connection of your elderly parents has direct impact on their wellbeing and health. So you should ensure that your parents remain in touch with their friends and relatives. You should occasionally take them out to meet their family and friends to make their life socially active. You can also encourage them to take part in certain activities they are interested in like some craft or games etc. to keep them active at this stage of life. If they are interested in certain physical activities like swimming and walking etc. then you can encourage them to join a group of older people to continue their activities as it will keep them physically as well as mentally active and strong at any age. You can also encourage them to be active on online social media as no age is too much to interact with other people through any means of communication.
Help in managing their finances
Financial protection helps in maintaining confidence of the elderly people as they do not want to be dependent on their children as much as possible. But if they are not able to manage their finances themselves then you can help them by taking care of their banking transactions and maintaining the record of their income and expenses. You can also help them in avoiding the bills of certain services they are not using since long or paying their bills on time as such things can relive their stress to a great extent. You can also help them in improving their income if it is not enough according to their needs.
Focus on them instead of getting frustrated
Sometimes people get frustrated while taking care of their elderly parents, due to various reasons. But, instead of getting frustrated, it is important that they should be treated sympathetically especially when they are getting inflexible about certain things. For instance, if you insist them to go to old-age home and they want to remain at your home then the situation can be contradictory and frustrating for you. In such situations you should understand their background and try to do what is the best for them.
Remain in touch regularly
As we age things change accordingly but by visiting your elderly parents and talking to them regularly you can easily know not only about their health and wellbeing but also about the things happening in their life. If your busy work schedule does not allow you to meet and talk with them regularly then you should set a schedule to at least give them a phone call every now and then. It will keep you connected with them, even if you talk with them for few minutes.
Talk with them respectfully
It is also important to respect your elderly parents while talking with them to ensure that they are taken care well. If you usually humiliate them then it will become difficult patch up the things in the long run. You should treat them with dignity and respect so long as you are with them. You can greatly reduce your regrets by respecting their choices.
Invite your family and friends to help you in taking care of your parents
Sometimes it becomes difficult for a single person to take care of his work, family and elderly parents simultaneously. But if you have a strong support from your family and friends then it can be easy for you as well as your parents to live independently in routine. You should talk to your family, friends and neighbors to give company to your parents or take them for a ride when they call them. Such things can help you in managing the things more efficiently, especially when you live with your family away from your parents. But you should also ensure to meet or call your parents frequently to ensure your connectivity with them.
Ensure the safety of your parents
Though it is important to be sure about the physical health of your elderly parents but it is also important to take care of their safety. You should make arrangements to ensure their safety in your absence. You can hire a helper to help them in their routine activities along with giving them company so that they can live freely and more independently without worrying about falls and other mishaps. You can also install a security system near them so that they can use it at the time of emergency to alert the neighbors. You can also contact with local organizations taking care of elderly people to help you in this regard.
When things do not go as per your expectations then you can be worried. But if you take such things with positive attitude then worries can become the cause of celebration. Your positive attitude will allow you not only to deal with your problems more powerfully but also take care of everyone in your family, including elderly parents, more efficiently.